Our ability to ‘read’, connect with and value another person, is a good indicator of how successful we are likely to be in building and maintaining personal and professional relationships over the entire course of our lives. This is often referred to as Emotional or Empathy Quotient (EQ) or Emotional Intelligence. It isn’t necessarily fixed; it can be taught and nurtured. EQ tests can provide valuable personal insights with regard to who we are and how we understand and relate to others around us and whether we can ‘stand in someone else’s shoes’.

Test results can be used for personal insight, to prompt discussion on an informal social level with friends and family or at a professional level to provide information that can be used in the work place or even to identify whether there is a need for therapeutic support.

The following three EQ tests are examples of several free tests that can be discovered with a simple Google search. Have a go. Perhaps encourage friends to do the same and discuss whether the results are representative of how you see yourself and how they see you.

Caution: Only do so if you feel completely comfortable with this.

This first test is interesting because although the approach is fairly fun, there is an serious side to it. An ivy league university in the US is considering looking at ‘EQ’ as well as ‘IQ’ in the selection of candidates for their top programmes. Take this short quiz to measure your emotional intelligence. Try to identify the emotion conveyed in each of the 20 photos. Each answer will pinpoint the exact muscles involved in that emotion and explain the subtle differences between expressions, drawing on pioneering research by psychologists Paul Ekman and Dacher Keltner. http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/ei_quiz/

This next test is quite high level and employment focussed and based on Daniel Goleman’s – the grandfather of EQ – competency model. The mætrîx Emotional Intelligence Test – MEIT, uses 40 questions which are derived from, the mætrîx EI Capability Assessment instrument, which contains 158 items. These are based on Goleman’s four quadrant Emotional Intelligence Competency Model (2002). Short EI quizzes such as the MEIT are meant to be fun, and to give you a guide to which EI areas you are doing well in and those which perhaps you need to focus on for development. http://www.maetrix.com.au/meit/eitest.html

This final test is used by mental health professionals and is quite complex but… is also suitable for use as a casual measure of temperamental empathy by and for the general population. https://psychology-tools.com/empathy-quotient