A topic that often comes up in conversation with friends my age is that our generation is, in many ways, so different from our parents’.
This can often make it difficult when going to them for advice. Our parents have our best interests at heart, but all too often their advice is based on what would’ve been the best thing to do ‘in their day’ as this is the personal experience they have to speak from.
So when my friend went to her parents with the dilemma of moving to Argentina or sticking it out in NZ, they effectively deterred her from the former as it was ‘too risky’.
Gone are the days when you were in a job for life, you got married and had kids in your early twenties and that was kind of that. We are redefining the definition of success because we’re lucky enough to be able to do so, with opportunities before us that our parents couldn’t have even dreamed of (according to my mum).
It is easier than ever to travel and a lot of young people are valuing life experiences over the traditional model of progression in life. Increasingly, people are settling down later and later. Our values and our priorities are changing.
At the end of the day, you have to make your own decisions and do what’s best for you. You can take on board other people’s opinions of what you should do with your life, but you’re the one who has to live it.
And if everything does go pear-shaped for my friend then she can abandon that plan and start again and chalk it up to experience. It’s by no means the end of the world. And she always figures something out.
Life is short and all of that and it’s how we choose to spend it. This is why, instead of saving towards a deposit for a house just yet, I’m saving up for this: